Yesterday Ann and I took the long journey to Matraville to visit my Mum's memorial garden. Door to plot it takes in the order of three hours of train and bus, never a hassle, I can assure you. But you do need to make a day of it.
My mum never really liked the Eastern Suburbs Memorial Gardens, certainly not at the start, for she had to inter her own mother there when she died suddenly at only 60 years of age in 1961. I don't think it's an event she ever really got over - the two being very close - and being left largely alone in a strange land. If she had still been in England, she might have absorbed the shock a little better.
The gardens were relatively new back then and lacked the trees and landscaping that make it a thoughtful place to visit nowadays. I like going there because a number of family members, and one friend of the family, are all in one little rose garden, A7. I don't imply its a joyful place to go but it is pleasant enough aesthetically, allowing for deeper musings and conversations to occur.
Typically I say hello to mum, read a poem or prayer or improvise my own, tidy up if necessary, rearrange any flowers or pots and so forth. There is no a lot to say but I do so like going there. I'd like to try for once a month, but its more likely to be every two months. Perhaps next time I can take a copy of a book she would like to hear read, and begin from the opening page. But instead, and for now, here is the opening stanza from Frost's 'In a Disused Graveyard.'
